Random Thoughts on Balance

Louanne Learning

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Random Thoughts on Balance

Something I recently read in the roleplay entry of @ellekaldwin gave me pause, and I have been thinking about it. Elle wrote:

He had once said that the true measure of a life was not brilliance but balance.

Lol, I hear my sister talking. One of her favourite sayings is, “Everything in moderation.” She is a firm believer in a little bit of anything won’t hurt you. A little bit of salt, a little bit of sugar, a little bit of booze, a little bit of weed. Don’t punish yourself, but don’t overindulge. Have that cookie, but not the whole box!

If you lose balance, you fall over. We’re jugglers, aren’t we? Shift your weight in the wrong direction, and those balls are going to drop. Do not overthink, do not underthink, but give each concern its due. So many demands pressing on us—family, work, responsibilities, our personal goals—but we need to stay calm in the chaos, and juggle.

It’s like Aristotle’s Golden Mean. Choose courage over cowardice and rashness, choose modesty over humility and pride, choose honesty over secrecy and loquacity … and so on. The middle is where it’s at. Excesses and deficiencies make us lop-sided.

Even the heart works better at an even pace—better than tachycardia and bradycardia. In fact, life itself depends on every single internal chemical process being regulated and kept in equilibrium, in a system called homeostasis. If homeostasis is lost in a living body, sickness, or even death, results. Not too much, nor too little, is the rule of life. So, let nature be our teacher.

Life’s evolutionary history, too, advances by the guideline of “just good enough.” Perfection is never required, only the ability to see your offspring to their reproduction. If you and a buddy are running from a predator, you don’t need to be faster than the predator, only your buddy. Laggards get eaten, but there’s no need to be the fastest runner in the whole wide world. It will tire you out! Don’t go too slow, don’t go too fast.

You win some, and you lose some. Into every life, a little rain must fall. The sun comes out, too. Joy and sorrow touch us all. But too much good fortune, or too much misfortune, which both reside in random chance, can knock a person off-kilter. We’ve read about the lottery winners who end up losing everything, even their own sense of self, and we’ve heard about trauma survivors who have trouble going forward. The good news is that healing is possible, and no small part of that is regaining balance—finding flow and rightness—finding consonance. This takes recalibration.

Symmetry is pleasing to our brains, too, whether in aesthetics, or our psychology. I remember reading something about how our perception of the attractiveness of a face is tied in with the balance between its two sides. We’re hard-wired to seek symmetry. And, I’ve always been amazed by how clear my thinking is, how good my mind feels, after I’m in the pool. I mentioned that to my doctor, and she said it’s the symmetrical movement of my limbs while swimming that in large part uplifts my brain. That makes sense. If systems in this universe tend to equilibrium, it follows that my brain is rewarded when my body luxuriates in full-bodied, patterned movements.

And then in our approach to this existence. Moderate our perspectives. Choose understanding over blind acceptance and harsh judgment. Choose rational engagement over apathy and obsession. Look out as much as you look in. Listen, as much as you talk. Give as much as you take. Work, and play. Avoid extremes.

And have that cookie.
 
While I was writing the OP, the concept of entropy came to my mind. At first, I didn’t know how to square it with the idea of balance being the ultimate goal. After all, increasing entropy in the universe is theoretically supposed to lead to the collapse of the universe in heat death.

But what if the collapse of the universe is not “the end” – but feedback? What if it actually triggers a new Big Bang?
 
Everything in moderation, including moderation.

Entropy is a curious funtion of the universe. It is true that nature abhors a vacuum. High pressure flies to low pressure. This is what creates oweather. Heat flows to cold (absense of heat). This is why we have to heat our homes i winter. Entropy is in fact, a funtion of this phemenon. It is the process of emergy converting to mass but energy is not lost, it is stored in mass. Its a cosmic balancing act like wakefullness and sleep.
 
More about entropy and loss of balance – at the particle level in living things -

I read today about something called quantum decoherence — the gradual loss of stability, of alignment at the tiniest, most foundational levels of our being.

Quantum coherence is when the tiny particles that make up everything — including you — are vibrating in perfect harmony. When coherence is strong, systems stay alive, full of possibility and energy. But when the harmony gets disturbed — even by something very small — coherence breaks down. The particles collapse into just one outcome. Imagine a violin string vibrating with infinite beauty — until someone grabs it with fear and silences it. That’s what fear does to the body. To the cells. To the field of possibility. In states of quantum decoherence, energy is lost. In quantum computers, this ruins their ability to function. In human bodies, it looks like aging, disease, and death.

 
More about entropy and loss of balance – at the particle level in living things -

I read today about something called quantum decoherence — the gradual loss of stability, of alignment at the tiniest, most foundational levels of our being.

Quantum coherence is when the tiny particles that make up everything — including you — are vibrating in perfect harmony. When coherence is strong, systems stay alive, full of possibility and energy. But when the harmony gets disturbed — even by something very small — coherence breaks down. The particles collapse into just one outcome. Imagine a violin string vibrating with infinite beauty — until someone grabs it with fear and silences it. That’s what fear does to the body. To the cells. To the field of possibility. In states of quantum decoherence, energy is lost. In quantum computers, this ruins their ability to function. In human bodies, it looks like aging, disease, and death.
I feel like that when I read the daily news.
 
The writer - Elizabeth Halligan - is very good, you might enjoy reading her stuff.

 
Balance has never been something I could find on my own (if I've ever found it to begin with). I can't do everything, can't carry it all, can't hold up the whole world by myself. Humans aren’t built that way; we’ve been social beings since the dawn of time. I think about this anecdote: when asked what the earliest sign of civilization was, anthropologist Margaret Mead replied: “a healed femur.”

Sometime we need someone to take a little of the weight, literally or metaphorically. Whether it's a friend, a sibling, a coworker, or a partner-- someone to walk beside us. Nobody makes it through life alone. Having someone with you, to guide you, or to go through trials together is what life's about.

Find balance, share the load, eat the cookie.
 
What's she got against muting? You can't play any stringed instruments without it.

And one of the things that struck me about Yusuf's early music was how much attention he paid to the silence between the notes.

Balance has a special meaning for me, from my life flying hang gliders. Like surfing or skiing, that sport is a question of balance, of staying in equilibrium with the elements for as long as possible. It's a balance sport, not a power sport. Your body says, "This is where I want to be. Not right or left, not front or back, but right here in the sweet spot."
 
"This is where I want to be. Not right or left, not front or back, but right here in the sweet spot."
It's all about the sweet spot. I live in the mountains. Around here it's about going up slowly and going down fast. Winter anx spring I ski dummer and dall I mountsin bike. Gravity is the engine and the nemesis. Balance is the Zen state of flow. Typically, ascent is long and meditative, descent is short and exillerating. But flow shortens the uphi and stretches thd dow.hill
Time seems to adapt and small moves generate exponential returns. The coolest thing is that you can do it well in to old age and never stop improving.
 
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In Sweden we have the word "lagom" which is roughly translated as just right or just enough. This is deeply imbedded into our culture, like Yin and Yang for the Chinese. But less religious, and less philosophical.

If you're going to have an emotional outburst, you better be lagom about it, or the whole room will think you're an alien.

But what if the collapse of the universe is not “the end” – but feedback? What if it actually triggers a new Big Bang?
I believe this too, that after all the black holes have consumed everything, they will collide and create a center of mass so tiny and "massive" that it will create a new big bang. I like that idea, that way life always continues.

Interesting topic on balance.
 
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