Ffs, I'm the bad guy now for trying to have the exact conversation
@Trish so excellently outlined above.
So, Trish. I've found a couple of things. First, it helps if you stick to one chat when discussing your work with the LLP. When you stick to one chat, it tracks better, and doesn't repeat the same mistakes over and over. After a while, however, if you use it long enough, the memory gets bogged down in that chat, and it slows to the point you can't use it. But that's after you've been using it a lot, for like a week straight. It works better in the same chat, then when you have to switch, it retains a lot of framework and knowledge of past discussions, but it also loses a lot.
What I also find that helps is understanding that you can set rules with your project. I, for example, stated directly, "As a rule, in the future, please don't ever suggest anything that utilizes an 'ly-ending adverb." It went blip blip blip blip and replied, "Okay, no revisions I suggest will ever use an 'ly-ending adverb". Then, I stated, "As a rule, please don't use any analogies in anything you suggest." Then, I asked it not to suggest any scene rewrites unless i specifically asked for them. I set up one that forbade it from straying from the POV of tight close third person. There's a bunch more, but when I got the rules straight, things hummed along better. If you have any rules you set that helped, let me know.
Then, there's the patronization you mentioned. It does that, and you have to be careful. Oh, you're such a great writer, etc. I suppose I could set a rule that asks it to give frank feedback, but I haven't tried it yet. But, you're right. It can lull you into a false sense of grandeur.
Finally, you're going along, you've worked on a couple of chapters, then it gives feedback that makes you wonder if it forgot specifics from earlier chapters. To solve this, whenever I felt I needed a big picture view of things, I reposted everything preceeding it before I posed the question. Usually, I said "don't reply until I'm done reposting", and it will
Regarding ChatGPT vs. Claude, I agree with you wholeheartedly. My problem is that I started with ChatGPT and stuck with it despite its limitations.
I'm probably banned from the site and writing all this is a waste of time. If so, then so be it.