And family. Yes, I have always felt that our evolution as a social animal influenced so much of our behavior. For example, I think the need for meaningful human connection is one of our primary drivers. (I've read that lacking it is implicated in addiction - which is an unhealthy connection to whatever one is addicted to, and recovery involves rewiring the brain, by making healthy connections) --
That's one of the thinks that Kurt Vonnegut was always pointing out. We have evolved as a species that needs family bonds. We've always been pack animals, with families being at the core of our identity, followed by affiliations by town or country or whatever.
Our great-grandparents likely grew up in an area where they had extended families across at least two, and as many as four generations. That was their pack. They lived in the same town for most of their lives, and interacted with the same people day after day. They probably plied the same trade from the moment they started their careers until they either retired or died. Most of the cultures that we label "primitive" still live this way.
I was part of an extended family like this... not on a full-time basis, though. My family moved from our hometown of Syracuse, New York to the Washington/Maryland/Virgina area, and eventually overseas to Germany. But we always came back to Syracuse for vacations and my cousins and I lived in that extended family... a family where, if you showed up at somebody's house at noon, they fed you lunch. Most of my generation still live there, although no longer within walking distance of each other.
But I now live in a society where people usually live far away from their relatives. Very few of us live in the same town we were born in. Few of us have the same jobs now that we had when we entered the work force. We have formed surrogate families from our co-workers but seldom stay in touch once we change careers.
So we have to invent new packs. Some of us follow sports teams, forging a relationship with other fans. Some of us are on social media with others of like political tastes or pastimes or far-flung relatives.
I'll grant that there are still a few recluses here and there, but I don't know of any who have taken it to the point where they hunt or grow their own food and weave their own clothes.
Whenever anyone is going through a hard time, the support of the group is vital.
Agreed. That is the sole purpose of funerals and memorial services. The dead don't need them, but the living do.
Hmm ... I'd be careful here not to confuse individualism with being alone. One can be an individual in the group - i.e. not conforming to the expectations of others about who you should be as a person - "being who you are" - and still belonging to the group, especially if the group accepts (even celebrates) difference.
That's not to say that there are often not pressures to conform to the group. Those happen, too.