The Philosophy Thread

[Louanne Learning]

I'm kind of going through that right now.

I've got a feeling that you are a tremendous support to your wife. Hope all goes well.

 

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I'm kind of going through that right now. My wife is dealing with cancer and the aftermath of a stroke and a heart attack which left her unable to do more than stand up for a few seconds. Now she's walking again with a walker and fetching snacks from the kitchen, but she has a long way to do. I think that a lot of her old friends are shying away from her because she's not the same person she was a year ago.

She's going through chemo again this week, her third go at it. The previous two were derailed after some effects of the treatment turned up. We're hoping that the third time's the charm.

I really hope everything goes well. My dad just died of cancer last year, still grieving for him heavily. Cancer -- excuse my language, but I need to exercise my point -- fucking SUCKS.

 

[GrahamLewis]

I think grief changes us permenantly. I was going to say, especially if it is an unexpected death. But on reflection, it's not fair to say that because grief is a very personal thing, and if it is someone you are very close to, a spouse, a parent, a child, the loss is like losing part of yourself that you can never regain. I have a brain-injured son, who is still alive, but he isn't the same person that he was. It took me a long time to allow myself to grieve for the son I lost. Now I have a different son.. I love him deeply. I wrote a book about him. But I also miss the son I lost.

I too have a son who has cognitive issues; he is highly-functional autistic, with other physical problems. I sometimes grieve for what he could have been, or be, but likely never will; but I also love the son I have. I also grieve for his non-challenged twin sister, who sacrificed so much of her childhood to our parental attention over our son's problems.

Life can be hard.

 

[Louanne Learning]

Read this definition of change today and was just wondering what you thought of it.

“change” as a noun means unstoppable large-scale material transfers and energy flows that introduce differences in the material fabric of the universe

So, will we adapt?

 

[GrahamLewis]

Read this definition of change today and was just wondering what you thought of it.

“change” as a noun means unstoppable large-scale material transfers and energy flows that introduce differences in the material fabric of the universe

So, will we adapt?

Sounds pretty melodramatic to me. How about something as simple as "'change' as a noun means transformation from one state or condition to another." Not sure there's a need to "adapt" per se. More like accept, as in, go with the flow.

 

[Louanne Learning]

More like accept, as in, go with the flow.

Good advice. I guess that is adapting.

I think the greatest adaptation of the human species is our adaptability.

 

[DLC]

That sounds like something Bear Grylls would say.