What made me unhappy today ?

[Link the Writer]

So allergies is causing my good eye to go red and tear up -- my SBS (short bowel syndrome) is making my bowels declare independence, adding in stomach cramps which never happened before. So yeah, health wise I think I'm doing poorly.

 

[edamame]

One of the best things I've learned is if people want to be in your life, they will be. People say things so loud with their actions, and it sounds to me like this person is saying without saying what they feel. Protect your peace. We only get so much time to be here, and if people show they don't want to be in your life, don't keep hurting yourself.

None of that stops the hurt you feel for the loss of someone you consider important to you, so on that point I'm sorry you're going through this. It never feels nice to lose a friend.

Thank you for this. I still come back to this comment from time to time when I'm feeling low.

 

[Rath Darkblade]

So allergies is causing my good eye to go red and tear up -- my SBS (short bowel syndrome) is making my bowels declare independence, adding in stomach cramps which never happened before. So yeah, health wise I think I'm doing poorly.

From one stomach-cramp sufferer to another, hoping you feel better soon, Link.

 

[Catrin Lewis]

Not really unhappy, but just . . . bored. I have so much to do, but I don't feel like pushing through and doing it. It's very childish, and writing this here will help me face how childish it is, but still.

I know it's got to do with screen addiction. I want to be entertained All The Time. How do you kick that dopamine habit in these times?

At least I have work tonight at the store. It'll make me get things done, whether I want to or not.

 

[Louanne Learning]

How do you kick that dopamine habit in these times?

If I have all my tabs open when I am writing, I will definitely keep clicking on them whenever I am stuck on so much as a word.

I have to close them to get right into the head-space of writing.

 

[Homer Potvin]

Not really unhappy, but just . . . bored.

I hear you. My existential boredom knows no bottom, I feel sometimes. Every day is the same unless something bad happens, which isn't often, fortunately. Trying to quit smoking definitely isn't helping. And working 60 hours a week for the last decade has become so routine that I don't even know what normal is anymore. But I don't have a problem with screens. I've been using them for almost 40 years, so who cares? I didn't even hear the word "screens" used like it's some kind of carcinogen until a few years ago. I use screens to keep from punching people or burning buildings down, so society is actually benefiting there.

 

[CatrionaGrace]

I still think of screens as things that cover windows so the bugs can't get in.

Think how so many of those words have new meanings.

 

[Dark_Indigenous_Prince]

My grumpy roommate. She always seems to be in a bad mood. I have decided to avoid her and keep conversations short and hopefully she gets the message.

 

[Catrin Lewis]

I hear you. My existential boredom knows no bottom, I feel sometimes. Every day is the same unless something bad happens, which isn't often, fortunately. Trying to quit smoking definitely isn't helping. And working 60 hours a week for the last decade has become so routine that I don't even know what normal is anymore. But I don't have a problem with screens. I've been using them for almost 40 years, so who cares? I didn't even hear the word "screens" used like it's some kind of carcinogen until a few years ago. I use screens to keep from punching people or burning buildings down, so society is actually benefiting there.

I'm the one who, as a teenager and undergraduate, never turned on the TV unless I was actually watching a particular program. When it was over, I turned the set off. When I left college, I didn't even own a TV for the next five or six years, until a client gave me her old one. I rarely watched that and sold it when I went back for grad school. I don't own a TV even now, but oh, have I changed, "thanks" to what I get over the internet! I'm watching YouTube videos all the time, even when I'm not particularly enjoying them, and sometimes I feel I have to have one going on my phone and one on the laptop at the same time. The shorts are the worst. It's like I feel the next one is going to give me the fix I crave, or the next one, or the next one. When I'm not chasing that high, I'm playing online solitaire (no combat or racing games--- too much stress for me), over and over. It's nuts.

So I guess it isn't really "screens," but particular things that come over them.

 

[Catrin Lewis]

My grumpy roommate. She always seems to be in a bad mood. I have decided to avoid her and keep conversations short and hopefully she gets the message.

That's hard. I guess you have a situation where sharing living expenses is the basis of your relationship and no law says you have to be friends. But her attitude affects you and vice versa . . . Gosh, I hope things get better and she gets over whatever it is. Maybe you can use your writer's imagination to come up with some idea of what her problem is. Or maybe just think of yourself as a character in a story you're writing. A little positive detachment can go a long way.

I had some difficult roomies in college. Have to say the problem was "solved" by their moving out.

 

[Dark_Indigenous_Prince]

That's hard. I guess you have a situation where sharing living expenses is the basis of your relationship and no law says you have to be friends. But her attitude affects you and vice versa . . . Gosh, I hope things get better and she gets over whatever it is. Maybe you can use your writer's imagination to come up with some idea of what her problem is. Or maybe just think of yourself as a character in a story you're writing. A little positive detachment can go a long way.

I had some difficult roomies in college. Have to say the problem was "solved" by their moving out.

shes having issues with her boyfriend and also her boyfriend doesnt like me lol its a lot

 

[CatrionaGrace]

Arthritis made me unhappy today. It kept waking me up last night until I gave in and took half a pain pill, which meant I slept too long this morning. However, the med is still having an effect, so that's good. No dark cloud...

 

[Dante Dases]

An odd one, perhaps, considering how it's stroking my ego, but I just got unit results back for one of the exams my students do. Two classes have done the same exam, one which I have taught, one which I have not. The group I taught averaged almost two grades higher than the one I did not.

At the start of last year, I kicked up a stink about not teaching the other group. They're two groups which are similar in academic makeup. The GCSE points scores for each group (don't ask) were very close. Their expected outcomes for the end of the year were next to identical as groups. Each had its stronger individuals and its weaker, but overall almost perfect control/experimental groups. I kicked up a stink as I felt - and no longer feel, but know - their best chance of success was not from having another teacher, but from having me, at least 50% of the time. It turns out I was right, and I wasn't listened to. The end result is a group of kids who have had significantly worse results because some people higher up in the educational institution decided they knew better than the boots on the ground.

And who will be picking up the pieces through resits and intervention classes? I'll give you three guesses.

 

[Dogberry's Watch]

Got pulled into a verbal dispute at work between a coworker and a vendor. He was saying some awful things to her and when she got upset, he came out to the main department and told my male coworker he couldn't "deal with her" several times. Because I sit right where it went down, I get to go talk to my manager about it. This isn't the first time this person from the vendor has been condescending and sexist to people on my team, but it was the most heated.

Edit: this is the second day in a row some kind of intense conversations have happened near me. I don't mind talking people through the big emotions that happen because of it, but lordy Louise, it can be exhausting.

 

[CatrionaGrace]

Sympathy to you. Some folks seem to thrive on intense emotions, confrontations, and conversations. If at all possible, I save my involvement with the same for fiction where I have some control over the outcome.

 

[Homer Potvin]

Was it the vendor or the coworker being the douche?

 

[big soft moose]

sounds like the vendor... i've had guys from contractors claim 'they can't deal with that crazy bitch' before about a female coworker... I generally say ' i guess you don't want our business then, hang on while i call your hq and let them know'

 

[Dogberry's Watch]

Was it the vendor or the coworker being the douche?

Vendor. He's been rather awful the last few times he's been in to fix the machine that keeps breaking. Says we're making it up as it shreds envelopes instead of only opening them. We have customer checks that have been destroyed because of this machine that isn't broken.

 

[Homer Potvin]

Vendor. He's been rather awful the last few times he's been in to fix the machine that keeps breaking. Says we're making it up as it shreds envelopes instead of only opening them. We have customer checks that have been destroyed because of this machine that isn't broken.

I'd reach out to the company he works for and tell them to send you a new rep. Failing that, fire the company. They'll listen if they want to keep your business.

 

[Dogberry's Watch]

I'd reach out to the company he works for and tell them to send you a new rep. Failing that, fire the company. They'll listen if they want to keep your business.

Oh, my manager and director were on it. This was the final straw with that guy in particular, so the moment he left, they'd contacted his boss and said "not him or we're gone." I just had my meeting with them about the whole situation and they told me dude's basically gone from working with us. Mostly I'm concerned about my coworkers who were directly involved because it was an ugly, ugly situation. One of them is one of my best best friends and he doesn't handle this kind of thing well (confrontation makes him shut down immediately), so I've been trying to check on him throughout the day without being obvious.